What you need to know before attempting to break a bad habit

Last time, I wrote about how I get trapped in my bad habit of snacking for stress relief. I reviewed NYU Psychologist Jonathan Haidt’s concept of the elephant and the rider. Our rational, thinking mind is the human-sized rider of an enormous emotion-driven elephant.

Even in the best of circumstances, the rider has limited power. Add in a boatload of stress and the rider doesn’t stand a chance. The elephant is in control and charges for our short-term (usually unhealthy) fixes.

This happens enough and our bad habits become entrenched.

The more we can limit our stress to healthy levels…


How We Get Trapped in our Bad Habits

“Okay, today I am not going to do any snacking. I don’t care how stressed out I am. I can do this.” This was my pep talk to myself on a Thursday. The same one I had done every other day of the week to no avail. It was also the same one I had given myself many weeks before.

Right around 3 pm, I found myself staring into the refrigerator looking for that snack. I grabbed two cheese sticks and headed back to my computer. …


You’re probably only doing one of them

“So, I’m really interested in this obsession with being busy. Everyone is so busy. But why?”

I was at the beginning of a 25-minute coaching session with an altMBA student.

I had to bite my tongue to not step up on my soapbox and go off on a rant about how busyness is a new addiction to keep yourself in constant crisis and avoid facing some hard questions and decisions. …


How solopreneurs and freelancers can operate like social media marketing pros

When you look at people that do social media marketing for a living — folks who do amazing consistency for a living, they all have a few things in common. I call them the Big Three.

  1. They use a content or editorial calendar informed by metrics
  2. They pre-program their posts to publish at optimized times using a scheduler
  3. They produce high-quality content worth consuming

These folks also often have a team, some experience, and access to resources.

But in this brave new digital world, you can operate like a pro. You can build a team and you can use the…


How I F-ed Up Last Week

A few years ago, I had a major epiphany that has slowly but powerfully been changing the way I work. I learned to say no to busy and yes to a very purposefully selected amount of work — an amount I could do well and in a timely fashion. It’s made me a happier and thus a better person — less stressed, proud of my work, and more patient with the world around me.

Last week, as I got pissy about guests inviting extra attendees to my partner Jim’s birthday winery tour, it hit me. I have relapsed. I am…


How I f-ed up last week

This week I had a steamrolling incident. Upon delivering the necessary apologies, it shone a light on my #1 tactic for getting myself to ship my work, especially when it’s scary.

I’m in my fourth session of running GoGoSprint and each time I do it, I iterate something.

GoGoSprint is a diverse group of people coming together over two weeks on Zoom to use community support and accountability to get moving on the project of their choice. There are other bells and whistles but that’s the core. …


How I F-ed Up Last Week

When factors like COVID and air quality allow, I often spend my free time with my Drinking Club with a Running Problem. This group has taught me many amazing lessons like:

  • Beer counts as carbo-loading
  • All french fries are public property
  • When running a beer mile, the hardest beer is the third beer

One of the best lessons is that the biggest f-ups make for the best stories. It’s built into our rituals to call each other out for our gaffes and celebrate them.

At one of our group events, when the bus I borrowed for a site-to-site transport during…


Defining microaggressions, what they look like, and how to respond

The author letting go a a rope swing over water
The author letting go a a rope swing over water

This article is a continuation of a series of exploring my white privilege and learning to take action. (Here are links to the first, second, and third.) Last week I talked about moving to action. In addition to the small steps I’ve been taking in my start-up, I took action in my personal life and went to two marches in the last week.

There’s more about my experience at the marches at the end of the article. I have never been to a protest of any kind. If you have, you’ll just roll your eyes at my trepidation. If you…


The truth about equality, COVID inequality and the definition of racism

In my latest articles, here and here, I’ve been amplifying Black voices. My focus has been on awakening to privilege and understand what NOT to do. After a few incidents in my home town this last weekend, however (see the end of the article), I feel the need to move on to action immediately, even if it’s imperfect action.

But first, pulling yourself up by the bootstraps, the bias in healthcare during a pandemic, and a few more things to never say again.

Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Man

Emmanuel Acho


Juneteenth, Responsible Self-Education and 3rd Degree Racism

As I noted in last week’s post, I stumbled and fell hard on my white privilege when George Floyd was murdered. My next several posts are focused on amplifying Black voices. I will share some of the things I’m reading and watching and some short reflections on them. I hope you will follow the links and continue listening to Black voices.

Juneteenth Reminds Us How Far We’ve Come, How Far We Have to Go

Drew Costley

If like me, you have never heard of Juneteenth, this is a must-read and must-scroll. The article is followed by pictures of celebrations (visual tour) and adds a wonderful richness to the reading experience.

Juneteenth is a…

Heather Chavin

Productivity/mastermind nerd, coach in Seth Godin’s Akimbo community, inbound digital marketer, former mental health professional, Hasher & Airbnb owner.

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